This weekend about 40 St. Luke couples spent Friday evening and Saturday morning Rocking Their Marriage at the Rock Your Marriage retreat. This retreat led by Dave and Ann Wilson was energetic, funny, engaging, uplifting, informational, inspiring, and a night out without our children!

Dave and Ann gave some wonderful advice and tips on how to support and strengthen your marriage. Some of these included Respect Your Man, Women carry alot of baggage from their days with them into intimacy while men are very compartmentalized. They talked about different ways that a person handles conflict and how that can affect the marriage and communication. We had a break out section for women and men.

As I sat in church on Sunday morning and listened to the message and theme for the day being explained and expanded I realized that the Tau cross we were focusing on fit perfectly with the best message I believe Dave and Ann left us with over the beginning part of the weekend.

When we focus on Jesus and our relationship to him that is when our marriage is in the best shape. As we fall away or lose our focus on Jesus we turn our focus onto our spouse and begin to expect them to fulfill all of our needs. They will fail us.

When we focus on Jesus and our relationship to him that is when our marriage is in the best shape.

The Israelites wandered in the desert and as they grumbled and complained they turned their hearts from God. They even went as far as wishing they had been left to die in Egypt where they were slaves. As they hardened their hearts toward God he heard them.

In time He sent poisonous snakes that bit them and they died as punishment for their turning away from Him. The Isrealites were no longer looking to Him for their satisfaction and needs.

The Isrealites were no longer looking to Him for their satisfaction and needs.

They repented and asked Moses to pray that the snakes be taken away. Moses did and God answered. His answer was not that the snakes would be gone. Rather God provided a way that they may be saved from death. Those that were bit and looked upon the bronze snake lifted up on the pole and would be healed.

The punishment or sting of their mistake was still upon them. God did provided a way for life and healing.

In our marriages we make mistakes. We are not always the wife or husband we want to be. I have an amazing and wonderful husband who I know loves me dearly and even he makes mistakes and irritates me.

I am not always the perfect, loving wife. I know I irritate my husband and don’t always show him the respect and love that I am called to show him.

The punishment or sting of their mistake was still upon them. God did provided a way for life and healing.

I fail in my relationships with my children when I yell or fall back on a promise or don’t find joy in something they do. I fail in my relationships with my neighbors, by ignoring or not taking time to get to know them. I fail in my relationships with extended family when I am frustrated in communication or lack of communication. I let people down and they let me down.

Sometimes our mistakes are more drastic than a simple irritant or minor mishap. Sometimes we have an argument or an issue that is deep rooted and finds its way into every conversation and action.

I let people down and they let me down.

When we irritate our spouse, child, relative, neighbor, friend, or coworker or they disappoint us we look to the cross. We look to the one that was lifted up on a pole for us to provide healing and life.

We look to the one that was lifted up on a pole for us to provide healing and life.

When our relationships are broken and hurting and we are not even sure who we are anymore we turn to the cross. We look to the mark put on us at our baptism that marks us as the chosen and loved and saved.

We look to the mark put on us at our baptism that marks us as the chosen and loved and saved.

It is in our relationship to Jesus that we find our worth. People will always disappoint us when we look to them for our worth.

It is in our relationship to Jesus that we find our worth.

It was for the purpose of salvation that those who look to His cross would be saved. It is in the act on the cross that we see the love of Jesus for us all. And it is in that act that we receive our purpose and worth in all of our relationships.